Moving from Good to Great

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When you set out on a journey to define and refine success on your own terms, you will find yourself at crossroads from time to time. I think one of the most difficult crossroads you’ll come to, is the point where you have to decide if the path you’re on is truly in alignment with the calling on your life. This can be an especially difficult decision to make when the new path that has opened up means exploring uncharted territory and the familiar path is a road you can confidently travel with your eyes closed.

I haven’t read the book “Good to Great” by Jim Collins yet, (it’s on my to-read list) but, I do recall hearing the phrase “good is the enemy of great”.  So, I began to wonder how many of us cling to what we’re good at because well…we’re darn good at it only to miss out on that something great even if it meant completely changing the path we were on.

How many assessment tests will we take to finally be satisfied with the results that somehow consistently tell us pretty much the same answer?

How many coaches and accountability buddies will we rant to about the same thing over and over again so that we can avoid facing our fears of success.

How many coffeeshop meetups with our besties will we go on only to hear them tell us what we already know to be our truth?

And what is that truth?

Well, for one, there are no magical answers. I’m a practical person and I like very concrete answers but as much as I’d like things clear cut in black and while, the world is colorful and I believe the same is true about life, and it’s a beautiful thing.

Though there’s no easy button perhaps if we start with the belief that we already are what we’re searching for we can trust that we are equipped to be the greatness that dwells inside.

And finally it’s not too late to find the door that leads to life because that’s what we’re all here for. To Live. To Live Purposefully.

Until next time…

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Take the Wheel and Drive: A 3rd quarter review

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It’s that time again! What time is it exactly? Quarter review type of post time!  This post is longer than my usual posts. You’ve been warned!

About the Blog

Asummermoon.com is a personal journey blog which strives to Inspire Action despite fear, lack of confidence, and lack of experience; Revive Passion, despite trying to convince yourself that contentment and fulfillment belongs to everyone you bust your butt for and not yourself; and Empower the Inner Child inside, despite growing up in a society that does its best to stifle the very part of you that still believes in the power of dreams.

By doing those 3 things I can fulfill my blog mission to aid you in Activating Your Inner SuperHeroine (or SuperHero).

Sometimes that requires peeling away the masks we’ve given ourselves, or society has placed on us…so please allow me to peel away a mask and reveal some of my truths.

About Life 

My personal theme for this year is: Choose To Dance

Dance to me, is a universal love language.  It speaks of limitless creativity; it speaks of freedom and expression. It is art in motion so it can be versatile, fluid, progress. That’s how I desired to show up to life this year.

My word for the year is: Purpose

As I’ve shared before in previous reviews, I center most of my goals for the year around 6 areas or slices of life: Personal, Social, Physical, Spiritual, Professional, and Financial. Under each slice of life I set about 3 intentions to work on at the start of the year So my theme is in essence the vision I have for the year and the slices help me organize the steps I need to take in order to realize that vision in a balanced way.

*Cues the music*

Personal: Summer was a big reflection time for me, and it helped that I finally took a vacation and unplugged like never before.  I’m still trying to talk myself into making many of the changes I need to make in my life. Many of them were simply going back to the habits I started the year with, things like going to bed before 1am!  While working with my mentor, I became intentional about setting up boundaries and not hesitating as much when those boundaries were breached.  I understand more and more to let out of my life what need not be in it. The conclusion from all the reflecting was to tackle my biggest project yet with a strong focus on the word LOVE, and how to incorporate it in all aspects of my life.  More to come on this…

Social: Family, these 3 months have been all about family. From the sudden appearance of my father and that side of my blood relations I’ve not seen nor heard from in well over 10 years, to my younger brother pep talking me through heartbreak, to the birth a my little sis’s 1st son. I’ve been opening up a pandora’s box of emotions and this time around (with a support system in tow) I’m strong enough to handle them.

I’ll say this, because I understand that sometimes it is your family (the kind you inherit through birth) that can hurt you the most. When I worked in the field of addictions I learned about the concept of a recovery family. I encountered many who suffered from addictions and codependency (the mother of all addictions) and most had come from broken homes.  So, in the process of rebirth as that is what recovery, (or to make it more relatable) transformation presents, you can choose your family of support to represent ( in a healthy way) what your family by birth can not or would not give you.  This is a wonderful concept when you feel like the family you inherited constantly don’t choose and accept you for you.

Physical: Well, I’ve been more conscious of my work flow space, and surroundings. I noticed certain music at certain times of the day helps me concentrate on mudane tasks, while my coffitivity app or the sound of a fan blowing helps my mind stay focused on work that takes more creativity…like writing for instance. Though it still takes me time to motivate myself to do it, I’ve found that I really, really enjoy a nice  mind freeing walk and I’m going to miss being able to walk around in nature. Also, thanks to my personal project, I stopped talking down on myself about parts of myself I didn’t appreciate (work in progress) and instead started blowing myself kisses in the mirror and telling myself that I am enough. So far, I’ve lost 5 pounds and my face is starting to clear up from the adult acne I somehow developed. #justsaying

Spiritual: I suppose the walking in nature and journaling in the park has helped me get in touch with the divine inside myself. Religion has been a part of my story for as long as I can remember but more and more, I’m striving to develop a one to one relationship with the great ‘I Am’ the kind that is open, an full of truth where I say things like “You said You’d take care of me and provide for me and You unlike man keep Your Word, so have at it!” and get a loving (sometimes not wanted) response that somehow makes everything well in my world. I say all this to say for me, when trying to walk in purpose I can not help but to seek what my Higher Power has called me to. I know that my work is my worship and my divine assignment is my priority. It is in knowing that, that on the many occasions when I honest to goodness want to give up I keep pressing forward.

Professional: 3rd quarter was a development season. Besides getting out there and networking, or attending professional growth workshops, this quarter I’ve realized was a lot of mindset work. My mentor Kyna has been a huge part of my keeping my head above the water as I worked through some mindset shifts. Together we worked on developing systems so that I could get more intentional about client experience, and fostering relationships with the amazing colleagues already in my network and a part on my online community. I’ve been able to get more focused on how to truly step into my role as the leader of my social media management firm and I’m even more excited about what my own growth will unleash for the clients my company serves.

Financial: As I said mindset work was the name of the game, and so I was excited to be able to participate in my client’s very first money mindset program launch (affiliate link). Supporting her behind the scenes and then getting to join her and the clients she serves was truly a blessing. If I didn’t already admire her (as I tend to with all of my amazing clients) the content in the program seriously made me want to be one of her biggest fans (I was a fan long before she became a client). Anything numbers usually makes me roll me eyes and have a temper tantrum, but I learned so much about how we look at money and how to release strong holds that keep us from wanting an financially abundant life without guilt or shame. Now, it’s all about implementing what I’ve learn *dun dun duuuunnnn!!!*

So, that’s my 3rd quarter review of the year, thanks for reading to those of you who stuck around!

Also, I’d love to hear about you and what you’ve been up to these past 3 months. Let me know in the comment section :)

Until next time…

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Show Up as Your Best Self through Your Habits

certain habitsWhen reflecting on the words “inner-superheroine” I couldn’t help but want to explain that by no mean did I imply perfection. I didn’t want to set myself, or anyone else striving to activate this side of themselves up for believing that in the daring act to be “super” they neglect their side that says ‘I’m human too’. So, what was my intention surrounding my new tagline/ blog mission statement? Well, knowing me tons of things, but simply put, it’s about showing up to life as my best self and encouraging you to do the same. (My reasoning behind it can be summed in that famous Marianne Williamson quote.)

I’ve blogged many times my firm belief that this is a process, a life-long process. Why? Because we are constantly evolving and adapting, adapting for survival, and if we’re up for it striving to thrive. It’s a process to learn oneself, to love oneself, to discover your special awesomesauce, etc. etc.

Throughout this process, there will be (at least) listening moments, doing moments, and teaching moments. I’m going to focus on the doing for the sake of a short and sweet blog post….When it comes to the act of ‘doing’, your actions become integrated once they’ve become habits. We learn to chuck habits that keep us from our own personal evolutions, and we learn to develop new habits that we tweak with time. Therefore, I believe that habits play a big role in your ability to show up as your best self. So, we can start with 2 questions…

1) What habits are keeping me from showing up as my best self?

2) What new habits can I create to show up as my best self?

Here’s my own personal example.. I wasn’t exactly sure what my best self actually looked like, only I knew I had potential and didn’t feel like I was anywhere near what that potential looked like. I felt what held me back was that I was self-sabotaging with the same destructive behaviors and patterns of thinking, but I couldn’t pin point anything because I stayed in my head and forgot about myself the moment life hit. So my negative habit was jumping out of bed and rushing to school (when I was a student), work or rushing to do everything for everyone else in general so much so, that I never took time to look inside myself so that I could find my own truth.

I tend to forget things as quickly as I think of them so I decided I needed a way to recollect and began recording my thoughts, dreams, wants, desires, and deepest questions… by way of journaling. My daily journaling became my must do activity. Not only did it force me to pause so that I could reflect, and learn from my patterns and behaviors, (because writing them down gave me a reference point) but it helped develop habits of a daily writing practice, daily self-love time, daily waking up early enoughs so I could have that self-love time, daily gratitude…you get the picture.

The 1st step to change, to activation of any kind, (in my humble opinion) is awareness, so these questions are all about identifying habits. Changing habits once identified? Another topic for another day ;)

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You Can Still Astonish Yourself

unstuckNow is a great time to write about how to get your mojo back after the slow down break of the summer. And I started to do tons of research so I could lay out some practical steps that went somewhere along the lines of “set the alarm clock and get your butt up” or “hit the gym now before turkey day comes” but should do’s can feel so overwhelming at times almost as if they were absolutes, and I’m learning more and more that the journey is much more enjoyable when it’s fluid. Fluidity makes waves for liberation and liberation opens doors for growth.

So, I decided that instead of business as usual, I’d kick down the barriers of fear built up from unaccomplished New Year plans that left me feeling less than, and to keep on with the keeping on. You see, in reflecting, we are able get back in touch with what life could look like if it took our breaths away. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could wake up excited, (before the boost of caffeine), or feeling the feely feels, all the while enjoying the ride? We start off the year trying to do that, so why wait until another one to try again? I also decided that if I’m going to give this renewing of the mind a real shot, I’m pulling you up with me. So here’s how I’m approaching this and what I think is key to making this work:

Ask yourself what you want, what you really really want… I think that sometimes we create goals for ourselves that at the time truly felt as if they were honest representation of who we were when we set them. Then later we discover that we were still chasing someone else’s shadow, or trying to live up to what we perceived as the success someone else believed to be our possibility. Ever try to live up to the potential someone else saw in you, feeling a sense of shame for not wanting to be their sense of an ideal you? Yeah, I’ve been there. And that’s why I now take a step back so that I can listen to my own heart. In learning to love oneself you learn to trust oneself. And in trusting, I’ve learned is that it’s ok if you don’t know exactly what you want or how to get it just yet.

I’ve learned that sometimes things look crystal clear, and some things look kind of fuzzy because it’s waiting on me to take my love and faith in myself to another level. One thing remains true for me though, and it’s that when you simply get started, even if that means identifying what you do not want, you start the process for personal evolution. From there it’s up to you to have the courage to persistently and consistently work towards getting what you want, tweaking that and pursuing it some more.

Be wary of analysis paralysis. I don’t know about you, but I tend to sit inside my head for much too long. That helps me out at times, because I’m not very impulsive and my level-headedness keeps things consistent and running smooth. However, thoughts need action if you’re trying to make some moves. One move in an empowering direction is to get around people who are also sick and tired of being sick and tired. In my case I knew I would need a boost after a vacation so I signed up for a 1 day live intensive workshop all about astonishment where I knew I’d be in the company of other entrpreneurs who like myself were content but not complacent especially when we ourselves believe we still have so much more inside of ourselves that has yet to be unleashed onto the world, and understood the power of activation though investment in ourselves. For you it might be finally getting that accountability buddy to hold yourself accountable to doing what you say you’re going to do and showing up the way you dreamed in color when you mapped out that vision board. Whatever it takes!

Stay Focused Wo(man). So much information, so many opinions with their 2 cents and some change, so many paths to take to get to the same destination. Astonishing yourself is simply that, it’s about getting in touch with you, your desires, your intentions. What can you in your own power can do? What do you believe you are capable of if you just stretch? If you just embrace all of who you really are, all of who you know you could be? 1st time I set projects under this same name I realized that I was leaning on others to make things happen for me. I have no control over other people nor certain circumstances that could affect their lives, therefore when losing sight of my original focus I ended up having to let my plans take a backseat because those same plans took a backseat for them. We can be open to new ideas, and other possibilities, and even shortcuts, as long as they don’t take us somewhere we don’t really want to go, but bring your own gps, get behind the steering wheel, and drive your own car.

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The Serenity Prayer

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God grant me the serenity

To accept the things I cannot change

Courage to change the things I can,

And Wisdom to know the difference.

This simple yet powerful prayer is what I’ve been meaning to pass on to you my friends.

Summer is quickly fading and we’ll soon enter a new season, one that represents notable changes around us. Children are back to school, vacation brain is out the door and its back to business-back to work mode. Depending where you are in the world, the leaves on your sycamore trees will turn pretty brownish red colors and fall. But most importantly, there’s a season of change we come to experience within ourselves. One of crossroads, and mixed signals, sullen mountains with hidden valleys, where you make mind-blowing decisions that causes head-on collisions…and somehow,in the midst of it all, still find light at the end of the tunnel.

Light at the end of the tunnel? Handling the seasons of life? How do you get from here to there? Well, instead of my initial and instinctual advice, one that says something along the lines of get some gloves, a punching bag, and have at it, either that or go on a Häagen-Dazs binge…I thought this might be better.

Here’s my quick breakdown of a time-tested “tool’ from my handy dandy toolbox of resources:

God grant me: That means you are pushing your pride aside and asking for help. You are seeking from a power outside of your own which means you’re letting go of control and that’s scary, but it’s in vulnerability that we often find truth.

Serenity: Being calm despite the storm brewing inside our hearts, despite our naysayers, our inner critics, and those who seek to destroy us because they themselves are miserable. It is in moments of serenity that you remember that there’s love. And Love is everything.

Acceptance of what you cannot change: You are your best work of art, beautiful poetry in motion.  When you get that, you’ll stop trying to force feed your hidden agenda down the throats of anyone who you think will pay attention. You will stop demanding others to fit your mode of “right”, or  expecting others to be your missing puzzle pieces. Work on yourself, because then you will know to say yes only when you mean it. Or hecks to the no when you know you are worth more and deserve better, (have to get rid of your own struggle mentality and all that it brings).

Courage to change what I can: Not coming to a place of hopelessness and analysis paralysis. Believing you are enough. Discovering your purpose, living your mission statement,and you values, remembering your why…Choosing to dance.

Wisdom to know the difference: Embracing all of your seasons all the while knowing when to rock the boat or keep it steady.

So, feel free to put that in your pocket and save it for a rainy day.

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