There Isn’t A One-Size Fits All Life

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Every answer you seek won’t come in the form of a ‘How-To’.

And as scary as this may seem, it isn’t supposed to be that way.

When our lives have suddenly spiraled out of control, or at the very least, have fallen to an abyss of out of our comfort zone, it’s easy for us to look for a fast fix. ‘If I do step A and then B, I’ll get solution C, and all will be well again (at least that’s what the instructions say will likely happen).

Sometimes this works, but because it’s a temporary Band-Aid over a deep wound the issue tends to resurface, (sometimes with a vengeance) and right back to square one again you go still seeking answers, searching for someone to fix your life, and being angry at someone because they are unwilling to fit neatly in the box you’ve hand-carved for them when in fact you do not appreciate yourself being exposed, the same self that doesn’t fit into the box society has placed you in. It’s a vicious and draining cycle…

I met a guy once upon a moon, who was…accident prone when it came to relationships. He slipped and fell in to them, clumsily handled fragile hearts, and eventually crashed and burned. In a fit of frustration at the beginning of his new spiritual journey he cried out, God, why don’t you just make me a puppet so I can stop F*ing up! He concluded that the world would be a better place if we weren’t left to our own devices. I did not judge, most times I don’t feel I have any right to judge so instead I retorted, ‘sorry Pinocchio your wish came true, you’re a real boy now!’ only it sounded more like this well, at this time, it’s not that way, so what do you want to do about your life now? And without a doubt the me of those moons ago would have started humming Ain’t it Fun around him just for kicks, if the song existed back then….

But his answer revealed itself in how he showed up to his life, or rather, how he let life happen to him unaware, and mostly reactive. Likewise, we reveal the same. And I don’t necessarily mean our circumstances but rather how we handle them. There are plenty of How-To’s with instructions for molding yourself to fit into someone else’s perception of what you should be, and not enough reminders that simply say “In A World Where You Can be anything… Be Yourself”. From there we can work on being the best version of ourselves as possible. That way, no matter what is going on outside, you’re cool, calm, and collected on the inside. Yeah, templates are nice, helpful even. But they will never truly hold the key, or the magic wand to make everything alright in our lives…

This learning, this growing, this being, in this seemingly ordinary life, is truly a daring adventure. Ain’t it fun? :)

Until next time…Peace!

 

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Something From “Nothing” Reflections on Herstory

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Why do we love the story of the underdog? You know, that one really determined person who against all odds surpasses expectations and comes out a winner. What is it about that person that makes us want, so much so, to see them finally “make it.” That is up until they actually do, and continue to do so over and over again no longer an underdog but a full-fledged champion (same background, same story). And what is it about that very same person who had the nerve, guts, and glory to rise from the ashes and step into the spotlight of “oohs and ahhs” in turn recieve “have you forgotten where you came froms” and “who the heck do you think you ares”?

People are funny that way sometimes.

Let’s say you’re an artist and life is your canvas, you create and shape things, and color outside the proverbial lines from time to time. There will be some who love what you do, love what it represents to their existence, love that you are creating things, and maybe even love you. Then there will be others who fear those same things; it makes them uncomfortable when you don’t fit in with their comfortable. And fear makes people do things, things that make those on the receiving end of that fear have knee jerk reactions  and then the lyrics to “All Along the Watchtower” make perfect sense and March becomes Women’s History Month.

Life is interesting that way sometimes.

It was not too long ago that we as women had to rise out of the ashes while listening to the “who the heck do you think you ares” just to get the chance to vote. We’re still in the ring. Fighting everyday, sometimes as a collective, most times individually (and depending on the results that too becomes for the collective) having the nerve, guts, and glory to show up to our own lives, making champions over circumstances, and pointed fingers telling us that we forgot where we came from and to stay in our place. Leaning in or demanding that we be accepted and respected if we choose to lean out or lean back, or lean to the side…

And when I think on all of this and how it applies to ordinary life and the way I’m choosing to live it. I think, screw it! Why ask for permission? May as well be myself, may as well create my own luck, may as well let the naysayers keep on yapping. I’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain. Herstory and the many herstories before has taught me that that’s when real change begins.

 

Until next time…Peace!

 

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Black History Now-Meet Leslie Burrs

In celebration of Black History Month, I’ve been sharing interviews on local Black Entrepreneurs-Making History today!

This is my 5th and final year that I’ll be presenting this series as an exclusive interview series. So, I hope you enjoy :)

My guests are willing to share some tips and advice for aspiring business owners and community leaders who are willing to step up and make things happen for themselves and those around them. I would like to introduce to you all my final guest of this series…

Meet Leslie Burrs- Award-winning performer & Composer

leslie-burrs-headshot In this interview Leslie shares with us:

1) What prompted him to get started in his work as both an artist and director of a boutique opera house.

2) How he evolved from composer and flutist to creating art with healing properties for those dealing with Mental Illness.

3) And how he currently defines and measures success as an ever evolving entrepreneur.

 

Check Out Our Interview Here: http://youtu.be/GyaTu-PNPys

You can find out more at:

Leslie’s Website: www.leslieburrs.com

Opera North’s website: www.operanorthinc.org

DBHIDS’s website: www.dbhids.org/

This is the the film Leslie produced for Philadelphia’s Department of Behavioral Health and Intellectual disAbility Services titled Autumn Journey.

Until next time…Peace!

 

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Black History Now-Meet Florcy Morisset

In celebration of Black History Month, I’ve been sharing interviews on local Black Entrepreneurs-Making History today!

This is my 5th and final year that I’ll be presenting this series as an exclusive interview series. So, I hope you enjoy :)

My guests are willing to share some tips and advice for aspiring business owners and community leaders who are willing to step up and make things happen for themselves and those around them. I would like to introduce to you all my special guest of the week…

Meet Florcy Morisset- Independent Curator & Art Consultant

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In this interview Florcy shares with us:

1) What prompted her to open up an art gallery in the Historic Old City part of Philadelphia.

2) How she evolved from a brick and mortar gallery into a location-independent gallery in order to take the art gallery to an international market.

3) And how she currently defines and measures success as an ever evolving entrepreneur.

Check Out Our Interview Here:http://youtu.be/Tw6JjIKxncc

You can find out more at:

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http://www.vivantartcollection.com

Until next time…Peace!

 

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Black History Now-Meet Sonia James Pennington

In celebration of Black History Month, I’m conducting weekly interviews on local Black Entrepreneurs-Making History today!

This is my 5th and final year I’m presenting this series as an exclusive interview series. So, I switched up things a bit and expanded into reaching out to people whose work expanded into the greater Philadelphia region as they are more location independent.

My guests are willing to share some tips and advice for aspiring business owners and community leaders who are willing to step up and make things happen for themselves and those around them. I would like to introduce to you all my special guest of the week…

Meet Sonia James Pennington-Artistic Director, and Choreographer

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In this interview Sonia shares with us:

1) What prompted her to open up a dance studio and pursue the path of the arts even though she had originally chosen the path of law as a Deputy Attorney General for the State of New Jersey.

2) How she handles obstacles and roadblocks such as lawsuits that threatened to take her company from her.

3) And how she currently defines and measures success as an ever evolving entrepreneur.

Check Out Our Interview Here: http://youtu.be/v3NQlwocC_c

 

You can find out more at:
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http://www.introspectivemovementproject.com/

http://www.nationaldanceshowcase.com/

http://www.artistsinmotionnj.com/

Tune in next Saturday for my next guest entrepreneur. 

Until next time…Peace!

 

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