“And in every one of us, there’s a war going on. It’s a civil war. I don’t care who you are, I don’t care where you live, there is a civil war going on in your life. And every time you set out to be good, there’s something pulling on you, telling you to be evil. It’s going on in your life. Every time you set out to love, something keeps pulling on you, trying to get you to hate. Every time you set out to be kind and say nice things about people, something is pulling on you to be jealous and envious and to spread evil gossip about them. There’s a civil war going on. There is a schizophrenia, as the psychologists or the psychiatrists would call it, going on within all of us. And there are times that all of us know somehow that there is a Mr. Hyde and a Dr. Jekyll in us…There’s a tension at the heart of human nature. And whenever we set out to dream our dreams and to build our temples, we must be honest enough to recognize it.”-Martin Luther King Jr.,The Autobiography of Martin Luther King, Jr.
Self-awareness is not meant to be a shaming exercise. It’s not about identifying your weaknesses and killing yourself to improve on them as if something’s wrong with you. Mass media messages don’t help in this regard. Nevertheless, it’s about seeing yourself from an honest perspective- to see who you are, and from whence you came, giving yourself permission to start where you are right now so to apply yourself when wanting to transform into the best of you…
“Believe in Your Power” is what the cover of my new journal reads. This gift from my awesome mentor confirmed once again why she was the right woman for the job because it symbolized that she’d paid attention. She saw the mascot created for “Asummermoon” as a visual representation of my inner wisdom and strength aka my inner superheroine. And in true coaching fashion worked with me to awaken and put to good use what I was convinced it was best to keep asleep…my own unique super powers-my gifts, abilities, experiences, and essence.
*Side note observation* Isn’t it funny that those of us who are most determined to shine light and spread love struggle the most with what we are teaching and preaching? But it’s also what sometimes makes us the most qualified. Don’t believe me? In the field of addictions guess who made the best counselors? None other than former addicts in active recovery themselves!
Activating your true self and therefore your USP, is an act of love. And I believe love is a choice- more a choice when the feelings take a nose dive and need serious resuscitation. What many don’t know is choosing love is actually very, very hard for me. I have to creatively remind myself, purposely retrain my negative thinking patterns, and practically apply it to my daily living. Heck, it’s why I greet everyone almost daily as lovely people. Its how I’m choosing to see others- what I choose to believe we all are deep down past all the things that don’t always represent that belief system. I am now conscientiously pursuing a Doctorate in Love-ocity from Life University because I’m fully aware that when I look into my own mirror of truth, I still see fear where there could only be love, and power, and a sound mind.
Fear creates envy, and prejudice, and misaligned justifications, fear keeps us from forgiving ourselves because we are worried it won’t appease our judges, fear holds us back when we tell others (while trying to still convince ourselves) that we want to move forward. Fear seeks the distorted mirror because it would rather misperceive than smash all the mirrors of deceit and come face to face with what’s really going on in the inside. When we don’t face what’s going on inside we find excuses to hide the very best of who we are.
If this is to be “our best year yet” I think we owe it to ourselves to keep it real with ourselves. After all, self-awareness (one of the many attributes of self-love) is a trait the most successful people all share. It’s a good place to start when you’re ready to hit the reset button on a life that isn’t in alignment with your values, or wanting to learn how to create your own luck, or willing to have the courage to be more of the awesome, interesting, lovely being that is you.
Until next time…Peace!
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