You Can Still Astonish Yourself

unstuckNow is a great time to write about how to get your mojo back after the slow down break of the summer. And I started to do tons of research so I could lay out some practical steps that went somewhere along the lines of “set the alarm clock and get your butt up” or “hit the gym now before turkey day comes” but should do’s can feel so overwhelming at times almost as if they were absolutes, and I’m learning more and more that the journey is much more enjoyable when it’s fluid. Fluidity makes waves for liberation and liberation opens doors for growth.

So, I decided that instead of business as usual, I’d kick down the barriers of fear built up from unaccomplished New Year plans that left me feeling less than, and to keep on with the keeping on. You see, in reflecting, we are able get back in touch with what life could look like if it took our breaths away. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could wake up excited, (before the boost of caffeine), or feeling the feely feels, all the while enjoying the ride? We start off the year trying to do that, so why wait until another one to try again? I also decided that if I’m going to give this renewing of the mind a real shot, I’m pulling you up with me. So here’s how I’m approaching this and what I think is key to making this work:

Ask yourself what you want, what you really really want… I think that sometimes we create goals for ourselves that at the time truly felt as if they were honest representation of who we were when we set them. Then later we discover that we were still chasing someone else’s shadow, or trying to live up to what we perceived as the success someone else believed to be our possibility. Ever try to live up to the potential someone else saw in you, feeling a sense of shame for not wanting to be their sense of an ideal you? Yeah, I’ve been there. And that’s why I now take a step back so that I can listen to my own heart. In learning to love oneself you learn to trust oneself. And in trusting, I’ve learned is that it’s ok if you don’t know exactly what you want or how to get it just yet.

I’ve learned that sometimes things look crystal clear, and some things look kind of fuzzy because it’s waiting on me to take my love and faith in myself to another level. One thing remains true for me though, and it’s that when you simply get started, even if that means identifying what you do not want, you start the process for personal evolution. From there it’s up to you to have the courage to persistently and consistently work towards getting what you want, tweaking that and pursuing it some more.

Be wary of analysis paralysis. I don’t know about you, but I tend to sit inside my head for much too long. That helps me out at times, because I’m not very impulsive and my level-headedness keeps things consistent and running smooth. However, thoughts need action if you’re trying to make some moves. One move in an empowering direction is to get around people who are also sick and tired of being sick and tired. In my case I knew I would need a boost after a vacation so I signed up for a 1 day live intensive workshop all about astonishment where I knew I’d be in the company of other entrpreneurs who like myself were content but not complacent especially when we ourselves believe we still have so much more inside of ourselves that has yet to be unleashed onto the world, and understood the power of activation though investment in ourselves. For you it might be finally getting that accountability buddy to hold yourself accountable to doing what you say you’re going to do and showing up the way you dreamed in color when you mapped out that vision board. Whatever it takes!

Stay Focused Wo(man). So much information, so many opinions with their 2 cents and some change, so many paths to take to get to the same destination. Astonishing yourself is simply that, it’s about getting in touch with you, your desires, your intentions. What can you in your own power can do? What do you believe you are capable of if you just stretch? If you just embrace all of who you really are, all of who you know you could be? 1st time I set projects under this same name I realized that I was leaning on others to make things happen for me. I have no control over other people nor certain circumstances that could affect their lives, therefore when losing sight of my original focus I ended up having to let my plans take a backseat because those same plans took a backseat for them. We can be open to new ideas, and other possibilities, and even shortcuts, as long as they don’t take us somewhere we don’t really want to go, but bring your own gps, get behind the steering wheel, and drive your own car.

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The Serenity Prayer

serenity prayer

God grant me the serenity

To accept the things I cannot change

Courage to change the things I can,

And Wisdom to know the difference.

This simple yet powerful prayer is what I’ve been meaning to pass on to you my friends.

Summer is quickly fading and we’ll soon enter a new season, one that represents notable changes around us. Children are back to school, vacation brain is out the door and its back to business-back to work mode. Depending where you are in the world, the leaves on your sycamore trees will turn pretty brownish red colors and fall. But most importantly, there’s a season of change we come to experience within ourselves. One of crossroads, and mixed signals, sullen mountains with hidden valleys, where you make mind-blowing decisions that causes head-on collisions…and somehow,in the midst of it all, still find light at the end of the tunnel.

Light at the end of the tunnel? Handling the seasons of life? How do you get from here to there? Well, instead of my initial and instinctual advice, one that says something along the lines of get some gloves, a punching bag, and have at it, either that or go on a Häagen-Dazs binge…I thought this might be better.

Here’s my quick breakdown of a time-tested “tool’ from my handy dandy toolbox of resources:

God grant me: That means you are pushing your pride aside and asking for help. You are seeking from a power outside of your own which means you’re letting go of control and that’s scary, but it’s in vulnerability that we often find truth.

Serenity: Being calm despite the storm brewing inside our hearts, despite our naysayers, our inner critics, and those who seek to destroy us because they themselves are miserable. It is in moments of serenity that you remember that there’s love. And Love is everything.

Acceptance of what you cannot change: You are your best work of art, beautiful poetry in motion.  When you get that, you’ll stop trying to force feed your hidden agenda down the throats of anyone who you think will pay attention. You will stop demanding others to fit your mode of “right”, or  expecting others to be your missing puzzle pieces. Work on yourself, because then you will know to say yes only when you mean it. Or hecks to the no when you know you are worth more and deserve better, (have to get rid of your own struggle mentality and all that it brings).

Courage to change what I can: Not coming to a place of hopelessness and analysis paralysis. Believing you are enough. Discovering your purpose, living your mission statement,and you values, remembering your why…Choosing to dance.

Wisdom to know the difference: Embracing all of your seasons all the while knowing when to rock the boat or keep it steady.

So, feel free to put that in your pocket and save it for a rainy day.

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Be The Change Series Interviews- Featuring Starr Sheppard-Decker

Be The Change Series Interviews- Featuring Starr Sheppard-Decker

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StarrForFlyerAbout Starr

Starr Sheppard-Decker Starr Sheppard-Decker is a teacher, Law of Attraction coach, musician, activist, spiritual leader, and founder of Radical Revelations. Her gift and passion is helping Spiritual Non-Conformists break down the inner walls that keep them stuck, small, and searching in a system that may or may not support their needs. She loves watching what happens when we let go of old programming and reveal our unique inner light.

Originally from Southern California, Starr moved to Portland, Oregon in 1998. The environmental awareness and laid-back lifestyle fit her perfectly. An artist, a revolutionary, and authentically passionate in her expression, she never saw anything she wanted in the traditional 9-to-5 world (though it took a few years of forcing it to fully realize this truth!). Starr is a creative, authentic expression of Spirit hoping to inspire others by her example.

Over the years Starr has supported many organizations with her time, including Commonway Institute and the Portland Center for Spiritual Living. She also enjoys time with her family, three sons, community of friends and spiritual community. Always on the lookout for new ways to serve, grow, and enjoy life, Starr continues to be create the world she wants to live in, one leader at a time.

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Be The Change Series Interviews- Featuring Rachael Kay Albers

Be The Change Series Interviews- Featuring Rachael Kay Albers

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About Rachael

Rachael Kay Albers is an artist, activist… Rachael has split her heartwork between her web design biz, RKA ink, and her arts based community work with youth in Mexico, Guatemala, and Kenya.

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Be The Change Series Interviews- Featuring ChopArt

Be The Change Series Interviews- Featuring ChopArt

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About ChopArt’s Founder

Malika Whitley is the Founder & CEO of ChopArt, a nonprofit arts organization for homeless youth in Atlanta, GA and Hyderabad, India. ChopArt has served over 4,000 youth in 3 countries with the assistance of professional artists, arts organizations and volunteers. Malika is a graduate of Oglethorpe University in Atlanta, GA and has worked on five different continents within the international marketing, arts curation and social enterprise industries. As an advocate for youth and the arts, Malika has dedicated herself to the development of her community through inclusion in creative and meaningful ways. She has been featured as Atlanta Tribune’s “Young, Gifted and Black” entrepreneur and her programs have been publicly recognized by the governments and business leaders of Hyderabad, India; Cape Town, South Africa; and London, England. In her spare time, Malika enjoys attending events around Atlanta, binge watching television shows and spending time with her family. To learn more about ChopArt visit

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