People always bring up two types of fears. There’s this fear of failure, and the fear of success. If you ask me, the fear of success is the fear of failure cosplaying because it usually means you’re afraid you’ll get so much success, so much business, so much publicity, feel so loved, and have so much more money that you’ll have too much, and not know what to do with it, and you end up losing everything…
Still, fear is fear; it enslaves us to our uncomfortable comfortables when we secretly desire the courage to step out into the unknown and taste the freedom of our biggest wildest dreams realized. And even if I think the fear of success is the fear of failure with a wig on, I must acknowledge that we don’t want to set ourselves up to even believe that there could ever be a happily ever after Amen.
But how do you move From
I don’t belong there with those people, I’m not good enough, I can’t do that because, and That was just a silly childhood dream
Embrace My Gifts, Be Confident, I Am already the Person I’ve Been Looking For, and I am Enough.
How do you get to the point when you stop resisting change, shrug your shoulders, raise your eyebrow like The Rock, and ask, ‘What’s the worst that could happen’?
How do you work through the Fear of Success?
1) You have to acknowledge your fear so that in time and with a little work you can act despite being afraid.
2) Be able to recognize self-sabotaging thinking patterns or as many of my coach gal pals say, No more Stinking Thinking! I realized that when I had something important to do, and didn’t think I was capable of getting it done and done to the best of my abilities all of a sudden all those little things seemed so much more important and I procrastinated. If I was supposed to blog, suddenly I had the urge to do the laundry. So procrastination was a trigger and I had to recognize what it was I was trying to escape from and why.
3) Turn a negative thought pattern into a positive one by making it an affirmation. In order to do this you have to ask yourself what’s holding you back from getting to the place you want to be.
Here’s my very personal example: My father disappeared out of my life when I was a little girl, and the men who came and played a father role, never stayed around long enough for me to believe a word they said, so I grew up with abandonment issues. Because of these issues I had a hard time believing that anyone could love me and even wondered if I was even capable of love. As I worked though those issues, I learned to channel the things I once believed about myself by writing out and being around people who represented everything I wanted to become. I wrote things like “I am love, for I am a product of God and God is love”, and “love is a choice and I now choose to love”. After awhile even though I originally thought it was stupid, I started to believe it. Trust the process, the process works!
4) Know that you know more than you think you do and you’re more than capable of learning more as you grow. Let me back pedal a little bit here…I started the 1st three points with mindset challenges because I fully believe you need to understand and heal those past issues before you’re ready to step into your greatness so you can move forward…Ok moving on, so this is where you start seeing yourself, begin comparing yourself to others and wonder if you measure up. So, you have to start looking at what you don’t know, and say to yourself, ‘I don’t know how to do that yet, but I will get there’. I’ve also learned that half the time we don’t realize how brilliant we are until someone takes an idea we were too afraid to share and makes it their golden ticket to the top of the world.
5) Finally, truly think about the worst that could happen. Most would probably respond that would be death. If that is the case, I like how Dave Ramsey put it, “ Once I know that I am not gong to die from making this call…it releases me to make the call…your worst-case scenario is unpleasant at best, but you will seldom die from it.” You will be surprised at what you get to live to talk about, so that your life is a testimony to someone going through what you’ve already survived.
So, are you ready to Go Get it. Go get it. Go Get your Blessing? It’s time!
Until Next Time….
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